I am having a bit of a hard
1. I Gave Up My Birthday and Mother's Day - This one is a bit selfish. I really hate having to spend these days with non stop fits. I did not succeed on Mother's Day. It was maybe the worst one yet, but I worked the two weeks between Mother's Day and my Birthday convincing my kids that we were NOT under any circumstances celebrating my Birthday. They actually forgot it was my Birthday until right before bed, so it was a success. One day. . . I will have an epic party to make up for the decades of uncelebrated birthdays.
2. I Feed My Kids - After loosing our CSA - because they decided to pull out of our city the same time we lost our house, L's care provider, and L's school - we have been shopping exclusively at Costco. Really bad idea. We cannot go in there and not blow our entire month's food budget. By the end of the month there was no food in our house. I found a way to extend our food budget (and am trying out Amazon Fresh - seriously where was this when S was getting banned from grocery stores?). After work, in which S is come with me this week, cooking dinner, getting yelled at by my sister (yep I really needed that one), and taking everyone to Takeqondo I still managed to make them pudding from avocados and prep the beef stew for dinner tomorrow.
3. I Can Easily Handle Two Meltdowns at One Time - I Can Handle Three Most of the Time - This is less easy when one of the people having a meltdown is an adult instead of one of my children. However, even then, I averted a full blown blowup from L. Meltdowns are like dominos at our house. One person starts and sets off the other two.
4. I Can Press Down My Emotions So My Kids Cannot Tell Anything is Wrong - If I have a bad day, they will have a worse one. I must be calm and level headed at all times. I do not always succeed - but I do more then not. After my kids go to bed I may cry, or come write a blog post (or both), but I manage to keep it all buried while they are awake.
5. I Manage Child Care, IEP Meetings, Household Care, Cooking, and My Job - I think that pretty much says it all. I would love a day to just sit on the couch - but then the kids will make me play Minecraft with them.
6. I Play Minecraft With My Kids - This is perhaps my least favorite thing to do. It is their favorite. So I get on and play with them at least one a week. We even have our own family world.
7. I Am a Therapy Mom - Some kids have soccer or softball. My children have therapy. L is currently in six hours a week. Then add in family therapy, medication appointments, and we are working on more individual therapy for J and S. That alone is like having a second job - it is also as expensive as soccer or softball. Although, in many ways the three hours a week of Taekwondo is still the most effective.
8. I Make the Abnormal Look Normal - We have family contingency plans for zombie apocalypses or sider attacks (both are S's triggers). I can handle a mini meltdown (enough to free most people out) from L without even having to stop what I am doing. When there is a big one my older two know what to do then. We have plans for when S is not maintaining control, or when J is being too bossy and not focusing enough. My children will watch out for each other using their own strengths - helping to counterbalance their areas of weakness. Even if they do like making each other mad. We do this EVERY SINGLE DAY, to the point that it is our normal. It takes an outsider joining in for me to realize that everyone does not live this way.
9. I Took a Nap - I really did take a nap once last month. It was on a Sunday after church. S was asleep. J was reading. L was on her Kindle Fire right by my room. I feel asleep for a whole hour and a half. Now every time my family calls and I do not answer they think I am taking a nap since I was able to have one once.
10. We Make it Through Every Day - No matter what is thrown at us we get back up the next day. In the last six months alone the kids have had to deal with loosing our house, being homeless, being continually turned down for new places to live, and finally having our own house (a beautiful mobile home). This also means changes in routine, a new church, new friends, and a lot of moving and cleaning. Someone saw my family on a good day and couldn't handle it. It made me realize how much we do to stay a functioning family. Despite it all we do function, my kids are great kids. When everything is going as planned my kids are the best behaved children around.
Bonus - 11. I Stay Up Way Past My Bedtime to Destress From a Really Bad Day - and I will still do every thing I need to do tomorrow.
Good Night All!